There are some things you can do now to help you overcome a fear of labor. Choose the tools you think will work best for you and work on them for a week or two. Then consider your fear again, do you need to make more changes or do more work to overcome your fears? Take the time to investigate any fear you have. Overcoming the fear of labor is the first step towards a natural birth.
Your attitude has to do with how you think about labor and your feelings about the process of childbirth. To begin, stop thinking of labor as something that happens to you. Laboring is something you do to give birth to your child. The process of labor is run completely by your body – it is your uterine muscle contracting; your body is creating that powerful sensation. Don’t fight the work of your body, let it happen and work with it to the best of your ability. You may not be in control of the process of labor, but you have many options for ways to respond and through your response you can impact the way your labor is progressing. Consider your attitudes about childbirth. Ask yourself where they came from, why do you feel the way your do? The figure out what you need to do to get your attitude right.
Many times fear is caused by uncertainty, other times it is caused by misinformation. Learning what to expect from a normal labor can help reduce those fears. Learn to tell the difference between what is normal and what is not normal. Learn about the options you have, including their potential benefits and risks. Learn some techniques to handle the parts of labor you are most concerned about.
You may find yourself less frightened if you know you will not be alone during labor. Choose caregivers and attendants who will remain with you the birth process. Make sure everyone invited to your labor is supportive of the choices you have made. Surround yourself with people who provide emotional support and encouragement now, and find a way to end any discouraging or hurtful relationships you may have (either by confronting the person or avoiding if necessary). You may also want to look into hiring a doula to help you with labor.
Pregnant women are often the unwilling audience for women who want to complain about their labor horror stories, or extole the virtues of a specific method for removing all pain from childbirth. Although the intent to educate you is appreciated, make sure you keep your expectations of labor realistic even if that means not listening to every story you are told. Do your own research and choose options that are likely to provide the amount of relief you are likely to need during labor.
Just as labor is not something that just happens to you, labor is not something that is done to you. Today a pregnant woman has many options for the way she handles labor. Find out what options are available in your local community and select caregivers and a birth place with the options you want. Use a birth plan to work with your caregivers to make the best decisions possible before labor begins, and continue the working relationship in labor. Be a part of the decision making, selecting carefully how you handle unexpected situations.