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I know the feeling of a ministry idea sprouting and growing inside you. I’ve had it myself, and I’ve helped many women nurture the idea into a successful ministry. Be encouraged, if you have an idea growing you you are not alone. But you may be wondering, “How do I make that idea a reality?”
Over the next few weeks I will share some of the things I’ve learned along the way. We’ll talk about common problems and the not so easy work it takes to avoid those problems. We’ll also talk about some great resources you can use to build a strong foundation.
In the meantime, head over to the main website to read the basics of birth ministry building.
In 2008 I was ready for the full conference experience. I was able to attend Midwifery Today because of a program that accepted students to work as room stewards. I wouldn’t be able to select what sessions I attended, but my expenses were much less. I don’t have any photos because my husband convinced me I was going to work, not hang out with friends. But hang out with friends I did. This conference solidified some friendships that began the year prior.
I was smarter for the Christian Midwives International Conference – I brought my camera despite his suggestion I leave it at home. I’m glad I did. Another case of ‘celebrity’ shock as I met Betty Peckman, author of Christian Midwifery. Her book was one of the first Christian childbirth books I bought, and I love her wisdom.
Both Midwifery Today and Christian Midwives International tried to balance skills with speaking sessions. Here are some friends practicing cardiac assessment and placenta assessment at one of the CMI sessions.
I expected to learn, but I didn’t realize how important the encouragement I received would be. So many of the women I met at CMI were wiser, more experienced than me, and I instantly loved them because they were so willing to share that wisdom and experience. There was also a good bit of fun. Here I am learning to make placenta prints. Not a clinical skill, just something fun to share with families.
I think this was the first year I spoke at CMI – I am in the photos of the speakers. I believe I spoke on how to speak to women so they will listen (you know, talking to women about changing their diet, exercise or other very personal habits without them feeling judged and belittled).
Needless to say, this introvert was hooked. I had started to build some solid friendships and enjoyed the different learning activities. When the conference ended, I was already looking forward to the next year.
As promised, I dug out my old files to find conference photos. I hope I’ve selected some good ones to give you an idea what goes on at conferences.
I think the first conference I attended was from CAPPA, possibly as far back as 2003, but I would not have taken any photos and don’t have a record of that. It was the only doula conference I ever attended, and I don’t remember thinking it was anything worth the cost. Why? By the time I attended I had been doing childbirth education and doula work for a few years so the conference offered little to me in terms of expanding my doula and CBE knowledge. I didn’t understand the value of networking, and being a natural introvert I kept my interactions focused on the one or two people I knew. I walked away thinking conferences were not for me.
I also attended a small regional conference in Virginia in 2005 hosted by my friend Doran Richards of Blessing God’s Way, but again I have no photo record of that event. This event was combined with a meeting between a few friends and I, so I didn’t attend much of the conference. But I do remember being disappointed at not having the opportunity to meet Shonda Parker of Naturally Healthy – something prevented her from attending at the last minute. This event has the distinction of being the unveiling of my first published book. Looking back I can only say I was so convinced of the smallness of my ministry.
I found a few photos from the first Christian Midwives International Conference I attended in 2007. This is the conference I only attended for a day, and only because my dear friend didn’t want to go alone. I only took a few photos, mostly of my friend while she spoke.
This is my friend Kelly Townsend of Cascade Christian Childbirth speaking about the intersection of natural birth and Christianity.
This conference was also my first experience meeting a ‘celebrity.’ Kathy Nesper from Apple Tree Family Ministries was there. Kelly did not feel like a celebrity to me, she was my friend. I am happy to say Kathy is no longer ‘celebrity’ to me because I much prefer to call her my friend.
Like I said, we only stayed for one day, Kelly had another appointment to keep. We flew from the conference to a gathering of Midwives on the West Coast – a few midwives who couldn’t make the trip east for this conference. Imagine my surprise to find out we were spending the evening with Barbara Harper of Waterbirth International and Jan Triten of Midwifery Today! Celebrity shock indeed!
So that was it – just two days and a lot of air travel. But it served the purpose of removing any fear I might have of attending conferences.
Today is the start of the AWHONN 2014 Convention. This will be the first AWHONN Convention I’ve attended so I’m very excited to see how they do things and make connections. This is actually my third conference this year. Christian Midwives International was in April, and the International Confederation of Midwives was at the start of this month. I skipped ACNM this year due to the lack of money and time to attend four conferences.
This is also the first conference this year where I don’t know anyone else going. I realize this can be a major barrier for some of you who want to become more involved in birth ministry — so major that the only reason I attended my first birth conference was because a friend was going to Christian Midwives International and did not want to go alone. I tagged along so she wouldn’t be too nervous. We only stayed a day, but the experience began turning the wheels of some of my most long-lasting friendships in the birth world.
Conferences are no longer a big deal to me, and although it is always nice to know someone when you are traveling to another part of the country, going alone has some perks too. When you go to a conference with people, you tend to stay with “your people” for meals, for sessions, for free time… and while you will probably meet some new people, chances are the interactions are on a much smaller scale than what you would do if you had been there alone.
So this is my encouragement to you…get involved in conferences. If all you can do is go for one day then do it. Allow yourself the time to expand your skill, increase your knowledge, and build your network. I’ll see if I can dig up some old photos from past conferences to show you what I mean. I’ll post what I find.
And if you are going to the AWHONN Convention, let me know. You can network with me!
I type this after I repaired a few broken links on the main Christian Childbirth website — links which have been broken since the debut of the new style several months ago. Cringe-worthy mistakes that make me wonder how I can continue to think I can balancing a PhD program and my hobby websites is possible.
This is probably not anything you particularly care about — unless you were stuck unable to follow a link. Except, I think it is important sometimes that we remember we are all only human. We will make mistakes and the work we produce will not be perfect.
If what is holding you back from serving others in pregnancy and birth is the belief or fear you are not good enough, let me be the first to encourage you that you are good enough. You do have something to offer and if God is calling you to serve, I highly recommend stepping forward boldly and being willing to learn as you go.
I promise the adventure of learning is reward enough.
I thought some readers might be interested in this article from Nursing Outlook. You will need a subscription or a library access to read the full article, but the abstract is posted online.
Title: The role of Catholic nurses in women’s health care policy disputes: A historical study
Author: Barbra Mann Wall, PhD, RN, FAAN
Journal: Nursing Outlook Volume 61, Issue 5 , Pages 367-374, September 2013
I have been considering several options for the addition of guest bloggers or contributors to the Christian Childbirth Blog. So an update.
I think I have the final format for the contribution series — each month will have a topic question about Christian childbirth. These are the questions we all had when we first thought about being pregnant through a Christian lens.
Should a Christian use Birth Control?
Is a Natural Childbirth More “Christian”?
Why is Childbirth Painful?
Does God Want Circumcision or Not?
This means each contributor will have the opportunity to share how they deal with these difficult questions. Leave a comment to let me know what questions you would like discussed.
This part gets a little sticky, because we all know that Christians tend to play with other Christians who have the same opinions about these difficult topics. But the goal of the blog is to present the many different ways Christian families approach these questions. I am considering a few options for how to reach a broad group of contributors, but if you have any ideas of people who should be included let me know.
I still have alot to do to be ready for contributors and to manage this project. I’m excited to do it, and this really is the perfect time. I can’t wait to see what the end result of this new ministry opportunity will be.
In 2010, Tammy Ryan and I began this blog from our desire to provide information to expectant Christian families. While we still have a strong heart for the concept, we simply don’t have the time to devote to all the writing.
So in comes plan B…
We have decided to invite additional authors. This provides several bonuses to us, to the authors, and to you the readers.
More authors means more perspectives, depth of insight and experiences to share.
More authors means Tammy and I will devote less time to writing and can focus on the administrative duties — getting things posted (you don’t want to know how many unpublished “drafts” I’ve collected over the past two years).
More authors means you get more information more frequently.
I am very excited about the possibility of this new format. I’d love to know what Christian childbirth writers, professionals and inspirational women/men you want posting here.
If you are personally interested in this opportunity, contact Tammy or I for more information.
Today is the first day of a big summer project. I will be updating the Lord of Birth, and if time permits I’ll also update 40 weeks. This is a relief, and a sadness.
A relief because the books were an amateur effort from the start — my personal prayer journals — that I only published because of the prompting of friends. The topics deserve a better treatment and higher quality than I could do ten years ago.
A sadness because I have a feeling there are some women who will prefer the books as they were originally written, and who will feel someone slighted by my insistence on making changes.
A relief because a book is a static thing, only able to reflect who I was and what I understood in a single moment of time. Ten years later, people still make assumptions about me based on what God was teaching me over 15 years ago.
A sadness because as much as the books must mature, maturation is difficult. What do I leave out, what do I add in? In some ways it feels like devaluing the first things I learned.
A relief because my skills at communicating have improved in the 10 years, and hopefully I will be able to express myself without confusing other women or causing great misunderstandings that have happened with the previous versions.
A sadness because words will always be inadequate communication tools, and I know others will misunderstand what I write again.
And so it begins….
I was reminded this morning how difficult it can be to actually be willing to grow. Growth brings change, and we are comfortable where we are. Others are comfortable with us where we are. Sometimes it feels like growth ruins everything.
And lets face it, pregnancy and parenting is definitely a time of growing. I was challenged to see things in a new way, experienced “problems” from a new perspective. My understanding was broadened. But it wasn’t easy.
I wrote this to a friend who actually brought this topic to my mind this week:
I’ve found so much of my understanding of Christianity has evolved over time — which I think is normal and healthy and just the reality of maturing. The downside is the tension I feel living in a world that still defines Christianity the way I understood it as an 18 year old.
I get it, the “collective” Christianity needs to be accessible to all.
There is a book I had to read my first semester of nursing school – about the process of becoming an expert. It seems in all fields the novice begins with strict rule following because the level of understanding is really basic. As a person becomes more experienced, they start to recognize the nuances to the rules and can understand the full principles behind the rules.
So to me, it feels like “collective” Christianity is stuck at novice, but as we grow we all mature and become more expert. While in other areas a more through understanding is appreciated, celebrated even, in Christianity it is beaten down for not sticking to the novice rules. So rather than becoming expert at knowing God, we become expert at making the rules more strict.
What do you think? Do you live in a tension as your faith matures?