This week I have been sharing some of the harder lessons I had to learn to become a midwife. The value of humility is perhaps the hardest one I faced.
I thought I did approach birth with humility. I believed I understood the process and knew that the best course of action was to let the labor take it’s course. Yet, at the same time I failed to see how I approached birth with arrogance.
- When I would hear labor stories, I would decide for myself what doctors, midwives, doulas and mothers had done wrong despite not being present for the labor.
- I had answers for every problem a woman might face because natural birth was always possible.
- I assumed what I knew about birth was not only all there really was to know about birth, but also the most important things to know about birth.
I now approach birth with a different type of humility.
- I accept that there are things about the human body I do not know or understand. I accept the ability of others to know and understand those things even if I currently do not.
- I accept that problems can arise in labor without anyone being at fault. Babies and placentas can have problems despite the best health of the mother and care of the midwife.
- I accept that the hands and knees position and a doula cannot possibly be the answer to every problem.
- I accept that there are multiple ways to respond to a problem and most of them will give a good outcome most of the time.