I want to share a wonderful line I heard recently.
“I am going to remind her of the goals she set for herself. As her coach, that is my job.”
This resonates so well with my philosophy of care. As a midwife, it is not my job to set the goals. It is my job to give information and education, to lay out the options and the most likely outcomes. It is the woman’s job to decide the goal.
Because she will never be committed to a goal she doesn’t set.
But if I can get her to share her goal, to tell me what she would like to accomplish, we can work on it together. She does still have to do the ‘work’, I cannot do that for her. But I can giver her information and encouragement.
When she is discouraged and wants to give up, I can remind her of the goals she set for herself. As her midwife, that is my job.